My sister, Linda (the inspiration for Xinda, of course), was diagnosed and operated on for breast cancer earlier this year. I’ve been struggling with whether to incorporate her condition into the continuity of JEFbot or not for a long time, but after talking it over with Linda and other family members and friends, I decided to go forward with it, as the consensus was that her story might raise awareness of the issue (October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month after all) and also possibly give comfort to those that have either been through it themselves, or know loved ones who have. This storyline – actually, it’s not really a storyline, as it will be an ongoing challenge for Xinda in future strips for as long as it’s a challenge for Linda – won’t always be funny, but I’ll try to find the humor in it whenever possible, just as my sister has.
Although the cancer was removed at a late stage, the good news is that Linda has just recently completed her chemotherapy and radiation treatments and is doing well. (I don’t think I would’ve been able to make these strips otherwise, honestly.) I’ll let her disclose as much of the specifics of the operation and treatment as she’s comfortable with, and knowing her, I’ll bet nothing is off limits if you have any questions, which you can post in the comments. She’ll either answer them herself or I’ll pass them along.
• National Breast Cancer Foundation, Inc. donation page
Here’s a pic of Linda at the hospital after the surgery that sums up her attitude towards the cancer perfectly:
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And here’s one of the two of us celebrating Linda’s birthday at the Grove in West Hollywood a week ago:
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A quick note that this is the last strip in The Angry Scarf storyline, which means this is the end of the three strips a week schedule! The next new strip will be on Friday, so next week will begin our regular schedule of new strips being released every Tuesday and Friday.
Also, if you’re in L.A. this weekend (November 5 & 6) come to the JEFbot booth (#3601) at the Comikaze Expo at the Los Angeles Convention Center. If all goes well, Xinda (and/or possibly Mombot, Popbot and Lor), will be helping me out at the booth throughout the weekend!
All my best to Linda/Xinda, Jeff. Your sister is an absolute trooper ^^
thanks for the support, Kaze! i’ll be sure to pass it along to Lin/Xin. 🙂
and even though today’s comic is a little more serious than usual, it doesn’t mean the Shades of Firsting will go unrewarded! so wear these well. hope you don’t mind that these come with pink lenses to celebrate Breast Cancer Awareness Month:
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xoxoxoxoxoxoxo 😉
Linda, so sorry to hear about this now. Glad you are well on the mend. wishing the best for you.
Dr. Friend! Thanks I miss you! Are you still eating at Bella Cucina’s??
xoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxo
It’s been a while. I’m trying to get back down to human size so I’m a little more judicious with what I eat. Might end up there in the next week or two however as it’s been calling my name.
I think it’s a great and good thing that you and your sister are willing to share her experience.
Give her my best, please!
(and if neither of you have seen Rethinking Breast Cancer’s PSA for its new app, check this out—I’d love to see the vid go viral)
i’m happy you feel that way, Sarah W. i’ll pass your “best” on to my sis! 😀
i hadn’t seen that PSA, but it’s definitely worth watching (and funny!) so thanks for the link!
Thanks Sarah! I will totally check out the PSA! xoxoxoxox
Oh, I feel bad for Linda…
I havn’t had anyone close to me have cancer, but my family and I do participate in various breast cancer awareness events every year. I hope Linda is okay now.
Don’t feel bad GEEKGIRL, I’m a warrior (not like Charlie Sheen) and I will beat cancer! or as the cliche’ goes “I have cancer, it doesn’t have me”! Plus, now I really look like a Warrior… (ask jefbot for pics)
i’m happy you don’t have any loved ones with cancer, GG, and i think it’s awesome you participate in raising awareness for breast cancer even without that direct connection.
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Not much for me to say…………….
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if those “xxxxx”s are hugs, i think that’s all that needs to be said, Jf300!
Wow. Thank you to both Jeff and Linda for sharing such an intimate part of your lives with us. I feel honored in some strange way.
All my love and healing thoughts to all the members of the Royal Bot Familia.
Thanks Pixie! 😉
i feel honored to have a community where i can put a strip out like this and have such positivity and support come out for my sister, Pixie! so thank YOU and everybody who responded.
Glad to hear that Linda is doing fine and I hope she continues to do well. Aside from that, Happy Halloween everyone. 🙂
happy halloween, Fijiman! and thanks for the hope and well wishes.
I like your sister’s attitude towards cancer and am glad to hear she’s doing better. 🙂
i like her attitude towards cancer too, Zanne. i don’t think she could have a more “Xinda-like” response to it than the image contained in that photo.
Well done, Jefbot. Hope the sharing helps others.
Zinda/Linda is still full of vim and vigor (vinegar,too) and ready to roll. (Also, still a little scary.) 🙂
Mombot, remember you have to see ME tonight!
thanks, Mombot – Xin/Lin is definitely still full of those three Vs! 🙂
Yes, Thanks Mombot, knowing that you and I and jefbot, are going to Hawaii EVERY summer TOGETHER to visit our Hawaiian side of the family is keeping me going… 😉 (jefbot promised)
Ok, I wanted more down to earth strips, and I got one. Thats all Im gonna say about it.
Xinda, fingers crossed, all the best.
Keep your fingers & Leg’s crossed MARYZ!
be careful what you wish for, Maryz. 😉 more of this subject to come, but with a lighter, more humorous vibe. (well, for the most part.) thanks for the crossed fingers.
Linda, I love the hair color! It’s definitely an “In your face!” to breast cancer and chemo. I knew you were going through chemo because a saw a pic of you in Bot’s flickr, so I’m glad to hear you are done with your treatment! Woot! I’m glad things look good for you.
This was a great way to break the news in the strip. 🙂 Good job, Bot!
Thank you Shana! I don’t like wearing wigs & I’m tired of decorating my head with scarfs, (not angry) So, I thought I’ll spray my head with chemo-pink spray and
then top it off with gold glitter (it’s hard to see) Plus, I’m proud of my chemo hair!
Pink with gold sparkles?! See? It’s stuff like this that makes you my hero! That’s just AWESOME!
Not everyone could pull off pink uber-short hair with glitter, but you look gorgeous in that pic! The lack of hair really emphasizes your face (in a good way). 😀
i love her hair color too, Shanna! you know it’s gonna show up in the strip like that in the future. 🙂
and thanks – wasn’t sure exactly how to introduce this to the strip so glad to hear you feel i got it right.
Wow! No wonder the scarf was so angry. Please give my Colorado best to your sister for me!
Thank you Stan! 😉
You’re welcome, Linda. My next graphic novel project is about my best friend’s battle with cancer. I hope to make it a benefit book for the American Cancer Society.
awesome.
It has been a while since I have cried over a comic strip…
Love you guys. (Hope that doesn’t come across as creepy.)
I cried too! ;…
not creepy at all, CG – love’s always welcome and appreciated. (especially in this case!) 🙂
Hey bro. What a nice/sad way to end the storyline…and breast cancer awareness month. Glad to hear everything is getting better for Linda…hope Xinda is ok too!
thanks for the good wishes for my sis, Slave1! i hope she’s okay, too.
Congrats on Xinda beating it down. My grandmother had it a few years back. Now mom buys every pink thing she can. My school does breast cancer awareness tshirts every year. this year was Hakuna Matatas: A Cure Means no worries.
Thanks Daughter Judy!
I LOVE “Hakuna MaTATA’s !!!
You should see the T-shirts I’m getting for my Dad & little bro!
I’ll have Jefbot take pictures!
That’s awesome! And it’s much better than when the doctors gave my mother some “Udderly Smooth” cream to help her after chemo. -_- Luckily she has a sense of humor.
Anyway, my (belated) best wishes to you, Linda- if you’re anything like your ‘bot counterpart, you’ll have that cancer licked no sweat! I will say that I think a sense of humor is quite useful in coping – its done wonders for my mom!
that’s awesome, dj! here’s hoping they find a cure soon.
I lost my grandma and two friends to cancer, but my cousin and two other friends survived it, so you keep fighting. Love the attitude, cancer is an a$$!
Thanks OZ!
Cancer SUX!
I will never stop FIGHTING! (I’m a Warrior)
That’s the attitude to have! Keep it up, and good luck.
Also, since it’s now Nov. 1st: Happy “Ohhh, I ate too much candy” day.
I wish I could say the same thing STONEFOOT but, my BROTHER stole all my “ALMOND JOYS” and they’re MY Favorite Candy!
Big hugs to Linda; I’m glad to hear she’s doing well. And the picture of her flipping off the camera made me laugh in spite of myself. A good strip; it dropped an unexpected element into the works.
Thanks Tiana! I can’t believe he used a real pic of me flipping off the camera. I know my parents are very proud…
xoxoxoxoxox
hugs given, T! and that pic makes me smile, too. 🙂
I love you little bro!
I just read the strip! ;…. (me tearing up)
I’ve been busy looking for “a bag of eyeballs” it’s Halloween!
And to all Jefbot FANS!!!
Thanks for all your good wishes, they’re really appreciated. 🙂
Ps. and little bro, thanks again for taking me surfing, mountain climbing & motorcycle riding, while I was fighting cancer! (with my pink scarf!)
love you, too, sis! glad you approve of the strip. btw, i think it’s awesome that you’re responding to the comments.
and if you wanna go surfing/mtn climbing/moto riding anytime soon, let me know. probably easier now that you’re further along in your recovery. 😉
yeah…
…Wow. What a shocking ending to the storyline.
Hope you’re doing well, Xinda!
Thanks Insectoid!
Glad to hear your sis is doing well! I feel for you and the family… my sister went through it three years ago, and today she’s cancer free! Thanks for sharing and encouraging awareness!
great to hear such a positive story, FunnyShaffer, thanks! i hope your sister remains cancer-free!
Also, I wanted to do a shout out to, Margi & Ryan and my Daddy & Debbie, Bones, Ruby & Colin for coming to visit me & bringing me food and walking my dogs.
And everyone at the “Sheila Veloz”
xoxoxoxooxoxoxoxooxoxoxox
Okay, your sister was already officially awesome, but now she is officially badass. Giving cancer the bird? After the late stages? You’re being written down in the big book of badasses for sure now.
You’re Awesome!
yes, she is totally badass, ND! even in the face of cancer. 🙂
Tough, pretty, and ATTITUDE? I think I’m in love!
I LOVE the way you think AndyO!!!
ha! plus she knits amazing scarves, AndyO! 😉
I’m well aware of breast cancer, but I’m glad you’re helping to spread awareness of it.
I’m sorry she had to go through that, and I’m glad she pulled through.
Thanks John! 😉
Any time, seriously, that has got to suck.
WTG Xinda/Linda! Keep Fighting Like A Girl <3 Have you joined the FLAGClub yet? It's an organization for girls with cancer and other silent potentially terminal illnesses.
Thanks Alechsa (love the spelling of your name)!
thanks for that info, Alechsa!
Great strip Jefbot, now that my tissues are all used up I can proceed;
This hits home for me. My mother had breast cancer when I was young but with chemo and a double mastectomy, she beat it!
Linda/Xinda, I love your attitude towards it and please, just keep fighting! My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Jefbot and the whole family.
Arigato skektek! Thanks for your wishes, it truly does make one feel better and helps with the fighting, as you probably know, some days are bad… but my brother and especially my great friend Margi have helped me thru the bad times and made them better times.
thanks for sharing your mom’s story, skekTek – so AWESOME to hear she beat it (just like Xinda’s gonna do)!
Nooooo!
Not possible, Xinda can’t fall by mere cancer! Death’s afraid to go near her! C’mon Xinda you can beat this!!!
Arigato Jiro Maeda. I will Fight it!
*hat in hand*
Can I say that I really admire your fighting spirit and it’s an honor to meet someone like you, I hope that you keep that gumption and courage no matter what happens. I know Jef and your family are behind you, please know that we his fans are also behind you so keep at it.
thanks for sending such awesome, fighting vibes my sister’s way, Jiro!
@Xinda dont let that stupid cancer beat you! You are the best character! This comic wouldnt be so awesome without you, the cool and creepy girl who scares everyone! (dont take this the wrong way!)
Dear DressesAreStupid, I’m actually taking this as a very high compliment!
xoxoxoxooxo
Is your family as wierd as jefbot says it is?
Because your family seems to be both crazy and awesome!
ABSOLUTELY!!!!
i agree, DAS: this comic definitely wouldn’t be as awesome without Xinda in it! 🙂
I’m glad to hear that you are doing so well, Linda. I had a co-worker that had cancer (I think it was breast cancer). Our boss passed around a bucket to help her pay her bills (utility, rent, etc.) while she was unable to work, to the league bowlers who did contribute a little bit. *casts counter-jinx so no relapses happen* Good luck in the future. Way to be all supporto-guy Jefbot. Keep up the good work.
Thank you KenderBryant! My brother has been great to me. I’m still going to torture him, but he’s the best Little brother a sista could have!
ps. I would like a bucket of money too, but I would just buy weapons & shoes.
OOH! Weapons you say? What kind? I’ve got several: Bat’leth, quarterstaff, longbow, Twinkle & Icingdeath (the swords of Drizzt Do’Urden), the Sword of Gryffindor, war fan, throwing cards (Hearts Royal Flush), miscellaneous daggers, Sting (Bilbo’s/Frodo’s sword), a couple of hand-and-a-half (bastard) swords, and a sword cane that looks like a miniature version of the Staff of Magius (from Dragonlance saga).
I have alot of knives, tazers, crossbow, bats, golf clubs etc. I would like a gun, but I’m afraid that I might hurt someone. As soon as I’m healed a little more I’d like to go to some shooting ranges and shoot some clay pigeons, as I would never want to kill/hurt an animal. But, I’m a serious killer of ants and snails. 😉
I like to murder cockroaches and spiders, personally. I wouldn’t mind having a medieval crossbow (preferably a hand crossbow). I forgot about two weapons I have, a light mace and a flail. As you’ve noticed I much prefer medieval weapons to modern ones, though that is not to say that I’ve never used them. When I was in the Scouts, we had a day on occasion where we went to a campsite that included a shooting range. We learned gun safety and got to throw hatchets, knives, shoot bows (YAY!). We had black powder guns and rifles to use. They were hard to load. I’m a lousy shot with a gun though. I’m much better with a longbow in my hands (though I would love a English-style one crafted from yew).
i’d hate to see the damage Lin/Xin could do with a Bat’leth, KenderBryant. 🙂
I’m sorely tempted to buy her one and send it to her, just so you can make a strip about it.
I don’t know what a BAT’LEth is but I want one! SEND it to ME!!! 😉
i havent and dont comment often on any of the pages (comics) I read. but i have to say you’re sister giving you the go ahead. to include her breast cancer in this comic. shows her to be One tough, brave gutsy lady. also you too are showing these qualitys by including it. all to make others aware and maybe help others.. you are both the best kind of heros.. everyday ones..
thanks for the kind words, drealm2459. my sister’s most definitely a “tough, brave, gutsy lady,” and i hope to reflect that as these comics dealing with her challenges come up. 🙂
Lin/Xin, you are such a strong woman! We don’t know if breast cancer runs in my family, but lung cancer does–my grandfather died from it (well, technically, it was his third open hear surgery that did it, but the cancer was a close second at 60 something years old). I will pray for complete and continued remission and look forward to following your story!
Bot, GREAT strip. ….. I think that’s all I can really say right now. I used my brain too much to get the message for Xin typed. (Migraine–possibly dehydration–and the toddler woke up after I had 3 hours of sleep…)
thanks, Ky! here’s to a “complete and continued remission”!!!
Thank you for sharing, it is difficult to share those things that scare us, but I love Linda/Xinda’s attitude, that is a wonderful way to deal with such an unhappy situtaiton. Hugs and prayers for the Bot family.
(P.S. Xinda/Linda needs to kick a little more butt IMHO, she really keeps Jefbot in line! 🙂 Love the comic.
heh. no doubt Xin/Lin will be back in the strip, kicking more butt once she’s put the cancer in its place, Deana!
Best wishes for a full recovery, Linda. Speaking as a man with an older sister too, I know Jeff will always need you to keep him in line and to point out when he is in the wrong (generally all the time, I expect!)
After this week I’ll be harder on jefbot.
I just have to be nice this week, after all he just wrote a strip supporting me…!
Best wishes from Finland to Xinda! (If you didnt know, its a country in Europe)
I’ve heard of Finland… and Europe too. When I get better I want to go to England and see a Wimbledon Match as it’s on my bucket list!
Speaking of cancer… will Bot or Cornfather be participating No Shave November for prostate cancer awareness? In 2010, for every 5 women killed by breast cancer, prostate cancer killed 4 men. And prostate cancer has a higher incidence than breast cancer.
Considering Cornfather’s amazing beard growing skills, as shown in a prior strip, I figure he could look like one of the characters in “Hillbilly Hare” by the end of the month.
Thanks Greg! I’ll talk to Jefbot & Cornfather about not shaving. What do you think about not bathing to support Prostate Cancer?
if i started not shaving now, GB, you’d barely be able to tell if i had a beard or not by the end of the month. heheh. thanks for highlighting prostate cancer awareness!
Ugh. Cancer. Eff that shiz. My best to Linda, even if she knits evil scarves and drives a BMW. 😉
Mother-in-law also had breast cancer and had her breast removed. She recovered from it stupid quick. I think they caught it early which helped. Good luck on the recovery Linda!
Thank you Jason! And all the best to you as well, even though from your pics it looks like you drive an expensive “Muscle Car”… I wish we had caught my cancer early too, but it happened really fast and even while I was waiting for my surgery, which was only a few weeks, it became even more aggressive. cancer sux ;(
I wish that was my car. I just love the Challengers. 😀
I’m glad you’re doing well though. It’s amazing how fast cancer can sneak up, yet other times just slowly works it’s way in.
glad to hear your mother-in-law caught it early, TCG. that’s one of the best ways to beat it.
I’ve been spending lots of time with Linda and doing lots of laughing, you can imagine the Zany Xin adventures, early on there was the best laugh EVER at Trader Joe’s, a very rude woman tried to run Xin down in the parking lot and all I’ll say in print is that woman will never do that again. When Xin ask me if I thought she should go to Hawaii I was willing to drive that crazy train and it was the best medicine she could have gotten, go Xin.
Love you lots,
Margs
thanks SO MUCH for helping my sis out, Margi! you have gone above and beyond being a good friend! YOU ROCK.
My Goodness. Congratulations on taking such a brave move including this in the comic ‘Bot, I trust you to have the respect and care to handle such a delicate subject, but it takes a brave writer to actually take the jump and do it because so often it can go wrong, I can name webcomics that have lost massive amounts of readership from a sudden shift into a serious story!
And my best to Linda and your whole family! It’s heartening to hear a happy ending when it comes to the big C, I’ve lost two family members to it in my lifetime and it holds a special level of contempt for me, so not just congratulations and best wishes, a thank you as well, for taking on this subject with the same respect you seem to show everything about this comic!
Long Post Is Long!
big thanks for the encouraging words, AngelSquidditch. if i didn’t have such an intelligent, encouraging and supportive group of readers, i would’ve been way more apprehensive about bringing such a grim subject to this comic strip. and sorry to hear you’ve lost loved ones to cancer. with scientific breakthroughs happening all the time, let’s hope it’s a thing of the past, soon!
@JefBOT OK can you explain what happened here? I have two theories:
1. The Angry Scarf took all of Xindas anger and evilness and made her weak and sick. OR 2. The Angry Scarf used its crazy powers to make its old master suffer because it got a new master. Try to answer ASAP.
as far as we know, the Angry Scarf had nothing to do with Xinda getting cancer, DressesAreStupid! we’ll see if jefbot even remembers to ask her about the Scarf during his visit.
I am just saying, we dont know if the angry scarf had somthing to do with it or not, BUT I am pretty sure it did somthing to make Xinda sick!!!
please I am very sorry! I have a bad habit of not reading or thinking things through so I am so so sorry jefbot D:…
Even though most people no longer say the word “cancer” in a low whisper, awareness is still vitally important. I lost one cousin to pancreatic cancer when she was 46, but another cousin survived a brain tumor at only 28; so I know that it can strike anyone at any age, and the outcome is not set in stone. Both of you deserve a lot of credit for sharing a personal matter so publicly.
This is such a powerful and unexpected transition. I’ll admit I wondered if you would ever consider a more serious storyline, and I’m not surprised you’re already handling it beautifully. The only thing more supportive would be for you to adopt Linda’s glorious pink buzz cut! (okay, maybe not, hehe)
However, I do humbly suggest that the “evil sister” sobriquet should be retired for the duration, unless of course, Linda wants to claim it as a badge of honor. 😉
i’m sure Lin/Xin considers “evil sister” a badge of honor, Kim! she’s totally embraced it during the run of the strip so far, so i can’t see her wanting to drop it now. 🙂
and thanks for the support and sharing your own experiences with cancer. it’s true that it can strike anyone at any age, and people should be aware of the risks and signs.
as for the buzz cut – Linda and i have already discussed it, and it’ll probably be the subject of a future strip. heheh.
Kim, I LOVE being the “evil sista” sometimes “good” is boring, and don’t forget jefbot has two sister’s. This is the only way he can tell us apart, when we were all younger Lor and I were alot alike.
Is this Kim “Golden Sparkles” that I met?
…and this is why I’m an even bigger fan – if that’s possible! Great strip…bold, real, beautiful!
too much cancer in my life right now…My mom just (thankfully) survived her latest fight with it, a friend of mine has been diagnosed with an untreatable cancer.
My thoughts are with you and I hope your sister continues to fight her fight with the strength she seems to have.
theBean, Thank you! I’m happy for your Mom and sorry about your friend, please give your friend my best wishes.
I love this comic, and the frankness with which Jeff incorporates his family and life into the work. This is definitely one of my favorites of those I read regularly. I wish all the best to you, Linda. The hospital pic made me laugh out loud.
That’s the Spirit!
my mom is a 12 year survivor and we do a lot of the events for breast cancer research fundraising
i’ll tell you i’ve met alot of women who are reduced to tears when they see how many other ppl (not just women get it) there are who know exactly what they went through